I was reading a post by Chuck Wendig over on terrible minds about self doubt and it rang a bell. Well it made me sit up and pay attention. Its all fantastic but I really liked his last line and I hope it speaks to you too!
'External validation isn’t a bad thing. It just isn’t what you need. Because it matters little that they believe in you if you don’t believe in yourself. Confidence must blossom from within, a corpse-flower redolent with your delightful stink, a stink you find captivating, enlightening, empowering. The confidence you find elsewhere is hollow, a ladder made of brittle twigs. At the end of the day you’ll never be sure if those around you are just wrong — or maybe they’re lying! — or maybe they’re suffering under the depredations of some wretched brain parasite that tricks them into liking mediocre things! — and that just means you’re opening yourself to other forms of doubt.
And doubt needs to go suck a pipe. Doubt needs to take a dirt-nap.
And the way you do that is by finding your own way. By fostering your own confidence.
Because just as doubt is one of the writer’s greatest enemies…'
…confidence is one of the writer’s most powerful friends.